Friday, April 4, 2008
Well, it's been a day. Bumpa was playing with Julia and Rauan and something he did causes Alihan to have a meltdown. Daddy and the grandmas were right there and they have no idea what it was. Honest to God, after seeing a couple of old bruises--no they are Mongolian spots, these are definitely bruises--and some of Alihan's reactions, I'm pretty sure that he was abused/physically punished in some way. I think haircuts were nasty too. His hair is all ragged, so we just wanted to trim around the ears. My God--you would have thought he was being tortured! It was awful. If he was abused, I want to take that person(s) and hang them by certain body parts! I've seen enough child abuse recently that it just makes me want to puke. And to think that might have been happening to my baby!
Ok, on to better things. Alihan is showing some very positive signs. After the above incident, I came upstairs and Alihan came into my arms and I snuggled him like a baby. Lightbulb!!! Let's go back to the baby stages. I got a sippy cup and filled it with water. I held him like I was bottle feeding or nursing him and gave him water. I even burped him a little. He relaxed and just watched me and snuggled in. I even fed him like that. I think just doing the stages is really going to help. He calmed down and was very responsive to playing with Julia and Rauan. He was even willing to give Bumpa a high five when he left. We are having the typical testing going on too. There was a power struggle amongst the 3 kids over a toy. So they all lost it. After that Alihan was much better at sharing. Honest truth--Ted and I just don't put up with that crap. Manners, sharing and just plain decent behavior are how it goes here.
He still isn't liking the dog and cats--but he was able to be in the room with the cat without freaking. Progress!
Here's just a few pictures of the kids together. Hopefully more tomorrow.