Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Humm, interesting thoughts

Snow day! No school. And Rauan was up at 6:30, refused to go back to bed and with that deep,booming voice of his--proceeded to wake up the princess (who was a bit bitchy--heaven help me on those teenage years) and Alihan--who I swear is happy even when he is cranky! I already had them outside for an hour--to save their lives and let me get a little coffee on board! It was a bit difficult to get up the hill to my house when I was driving home last night--and of course after all that, who can fall asleep. It was well after 2 when I turned out the light.
So, I'm kind of a "blog stalker". I check certain blogs daily and this one www.confessionsofj-momma.blogspot.com (my right clicker isn't working!) caught my eye and made me think. So, please read and give my your opinions. I try not to judge and I ask no one else does--this is just opinions. I do confess that I feel the children leaving their culture behind isn't best--but I think Ted and I give them so much--particularly a family that loves and adores them and unconditional love. Adoption isn't easy--but then neither is parenthood, biological or adopted. My work has shown me! So, please thoughts, opinions etc. I would really like a discussion on this issue. Gives me something to think about besides the kids destroying the house and wrestling each other!
Hopefully I'll have pictures to add later. The snow is coming down and blowing. YUCK! Why do I live in Wisconsin??

6 comments:

Marnie and Jeremy said...

I moved to West Texas to get away from that stuff but obviously I didn't move far enough South. Guess what we are getting today! You guessed it, rain ,cold, and the possibility of SNOW. Yuck!

J-momma said...

hi, thanks for the leaving the comment. i hope people realize my thoughts are just an honest confession from an adoptive mom and that i am in no way anti-adoption. it's just something i struggle with from time to time. but i absolutely agree that adoption is a much needed solution to a problem we can't control. although, in my opinion, so many minority children languishing in foster care is because of years of institutional racism. but that is a whole other blog post :) but as parents, we just do the best we can and hope it's enough. i'm interested in what others think so i'll check back.

Hilary Marquis said...

I read your comment to her and I agree completely. It is complex, but I still do very firmly feel that adoption is a blessing. Anyone who has walked into a third world country orphanage knows what I am talking about. Of course it is sad that our children will not know their birth families, culture, etc. But, they still deserve someone to love them. I think that many of our children's birth mothers felt this way. While they couldn't provide for them, they loved them enough to leave them where someone could. I'll do everything in my power to teach my daughter about where she came from and to connect her with others from her birth country. It's the best we can do.

stef said...

Wow, that was quite a blog (I checked out the one you mentioned). As an adopted person, my family never made a big deal about ancestry or whether or not I "fit in", it was just a given. of course, we're all white, so that's probably a big difference than a biracial child. But, I think my family handled things the right way. There was never a question that they were my family. So it was interesting to read someone else's thoughts. Now of course I have my kids and marvel at the miracle of someone else who looks like me. I guess I,m one of the lucky ones, I truly have the best of both families.

Maria said...

Ok, so I'm going to tackle this one on my blog so you'll have to click over to read my thoughts (which, given my lack of sleep recently, might not be coherent enough to follow). I found the post interesting, insightful, thoughtful, neither right or wrong and honest. What more can you ask for??

Lori said...

Bet you wouldn't guess how your stalking started so many talking,huh? Thanks for doing so, though!!!